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6 Things To Do When You Get Demotivated – Motivate Yourself

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When you get demotivated, do your best to motivate yourself again. Zig Ziglar said, “People often say motivation doesn’t last. Neither does bathing—that’s why we recommend it daily.”

Yes, you need motivation regularly because it doesn’t last that long. You will not be motivated all the time. There come times when reasons disappear. Sometimes, you get demotivated as the desire to go through the life you’ve planned is missing. It’s the same for everybody no matter how successful or miserable their lives may seem.

People are getting stressed and life is bombarded with responsibilities and tough tasks and so you are. And, in the middle of that, you feel discouraged to go forward and each step is heavier. It feels like there is a roadblock standing there stalling you from doing even the things you used to love, and things seem dull and uninteresting.

It’s totally reasonable and understandable to feel this way. Maybe you are the only person who is not seeing the truth, that you are temporarily stuck and it makes sense because you have goals and doing your best trying to manage. It’s okay as you are not alone in that. Every human being must face such times. It’s very natural.

The power of motivation forces you to act, grow and be productive. Similarly, self-motivation is the recharger your batteries need to continue from the point you get weakened and constricted by some road bumps.

When you have no motivation to go on, the best solution is self-motivation. Below are five steps to help you refill your soul, reconnect with your self-confidence, and embrace your imperfections. After reading them, I hope you pick yourself up again when you feel demotivated.

1. Find The Reason Of Your Demotivation

Perhaps, there is something inside you triggering these down feelings. You are not demotivated for no reason. Confront yourself and find out what is deep there inside your heart. The most changeable thing in life is the heart.

Your subconscious holds there what you need to uncover for a better understanding of yourself. You may find fear, uncertainty, lack of confidence, or some sort of weakness stopping you from being you and doing what you are supposed to do. Once you see clearly what’s hidden inside you, you can find solutions to your problems.

And, let me remind you, again, you are not alone in that. We all struggle to get ourselves back on track times and times that we become impatient and depressed sometimes. However, what will help you really is learning how to manage yourself and define your own causes to get clarity. As a result, you get stronger and experienced with self-motivation.

“I’m alive, motivated and ready to make the best of my day.” 

2. Be Understanding And Forgiving To Yourself

Don’t be hard on yourself. You deserve to be forgiving to yourself because you must be the first person to do it. Be kind and understanding of your feelings. Admit that what you are facing is part of the art of living. Success in life is not going in a straight line for anyone, and you are no different.

You don’t have to fight a lot with your mind, let it be for now. It’s possible to just do nothing and think about nothing. Only free your mind from complicated thoughts and stressful obligations. To be able to move forward, you need to master the art of letting go.

“Forgiveness is for yourself because it frees you. It lets you out of that prison you put yourself in.”

Louise Hay

The bystreet you are stuck in right now is a place you have to stop at and rest for a while. There is a lesson here you need to learn whether you are pleased with that or not. Just relax and understand what’s behind the suffering. It won’t be tough on you once you know it’s destined to pause in this place for some time.

Again, understand, forgive, and give yourself space and time to get your lesson. Eventually, you will move on and get strong preparation for better management in the future.

3. Believe In Yourself And Stay Positive

The best times of your life are when you believe in yourself and find yourself in positivity mode. You see life differently and life acts towards you the same as well. When you lack motivation, find your faith and hold onto it.

When you believe you can get your motivation back, you open the door to self-confidence to take place and replace doubts and fear. You are very strong whether you admit it or not, so better admit it and get the benefit of staying positive. When you feel down, never stop reminding yourself how strong and capable you are.

“Believe in your infinite potential. Your only limitations are those you set upon yourself.”

Roy T. Bennett

Believe that you can get out of that. Look at yourself in the mirror every day and say, “I believe in myself because I know I can do anything. I am who I am because of my past hardships as well as my glorious victories. I can do it and I will do it.” You already affirmed that you will do it, so wait and see how you will surprise yourself by getting better than before.

4. Go Out There And Help Someone

Sometimes, people can do for others better than they do for themselves. When you go out there to help someone, you will never be back home with empty hands. There will always be something left in your heart to move you.

Helping people is a remedy, they heal you somehow or somewhere in your heart without realizing it. It may be a wide smile or a sincere prayer you get from one person, and your heart softens that motivation lightens it again.

When you see someone in a difficult situation, you feel sorry for them that you wish you can do anything that helps. This is how you become motivated to do whatever you can just to see them feel better. After that, you realize that it’s you who got the help. Isn’t this amazing!

“To help people, love them. Then, they help themselves.”

Vironika Tugaleva

5. Learn Something New You Feel Passionate About

Learn something new in a time you don’t want to do something you are familiar with which will support your inner self-motivation. For example, if you are passionate about cooking, a certain language, or sport, go ahead and start immediately. Your passion will lift that heavy burden of stress off your shoulders.

You will realize you can do something that may be challenging to others very well and it’s just exciting and interesting. The more you dig deep, the more knowledge you gain, and the more confident you become. Then the following will be, motivation again.

You will get to know new people, refresh your mind, and enhance your quality of life. Everything new you learn adds to your life experience. You will find talents in you that will unleash your inner energy and makes your brain think better and make better decisions.

“Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow.”

Anthony J. D’Angelo

6. Treat Yourself To Something You Love

gift for yourself
One beautiful chocolate box for you

Treat yourself to a hearty meal or a dessert you love. The best way to make you feel better is to reward yourself occasionally. Make yourself happy and be the reason you feel good about your life. In other words, love yourself more.

When you treat yourself to a nice thing, you boost your self-esteem and satisfaction. You will be encouraged to do your tasks because you know you will be paid off for your hard work and suffering. Show love and care to yourself because you will feel as much love from people around you.

Think about things you love and do them. Take part of your time to think about what to buy or do. Make plans and arrange for them like you are going on an important date. Get rid of anything you feel negative about. The most important is to make something new for your happiness.

“We just need to be kinder to ourselves. If we treated ourselves the way we treated our best friend, can you imagine how much better off we would be?”

Meghan Markle


What differentiates a successful person from a mediocre is how they overcome their loss of motivation to chase their dreams. You will not choose to get knocked down by feelings you know that will not last forever. Once you find the right way to deal with them, you will realize how professional you are in becoming your self-motivator.

There are facts you cannot forget about life; one of them is that people get stuck, discouraged, demotivated, and sometimes doubt their whole process and the “why”. So, never forget that you will get demotivated as much as it takes now and then. Therefore, don’t blame yourself that much. It’s very alright and fine as long as you are trying your best to get better and rest better.